Eleanor Oliphant is not fine – this book is dangerously irresponsible

WHEN I began reading Gail Honeyman’s debut novel, Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine, I knew little about it except that the author was Scottish. After the first few dozen pages I was confused – was I missing something?

I wasn’t.

By the end I was horrified. And that was before I learned it was a global bestseller, with the film rights secured by Reese Witherspoon’s production company.

Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine is not just a bad novel – it’s a harmful one.

SPOILER ALERT: The paragraphs below reveal details about the novel’s plot and central character that are gradually revealed in early chapters, but none of the “big reveals” that would constitute significant spoilers.

Honeyman’s central character, Eleanor, is an object of ridicule. Not just for the majority of the novel’s other characters but also for the reader, who is invited to chuckle at her many eccentricities even as it is quickly revealed that they are the product of childhood trauma.

Eleanor spent half of her children in care, following an “incident” that she never talks about, or even – as we learn from the first-person narrative – allows herself to think about. Clues about the grim events of past are peppered throughout the many short chapters in a manner that reminded me of Hanya Yanagihara’s A Little Life (more on which later).

The biggest problem with the book as a work of literature is that there is barely a scene in it that rings true. As a character, Eleanor is utterly implausible, a crude caricature. Does she have autistic spectrum disorder? Post-traumatic stress disorder? Some kind of dissociative disorder? It’s barely worth speculating, as she is nothing but a figment of the author’s imagination. No-one like her exists in the real world. And as such, the book has nothing whatsoever of value to say.

So far, so what? It’s a bad debut novel that’s found an audience and entertained them. Nothing so very unusual there, and no harm done.

But the reason it matters is that this is a book about a character who is part of one of the most marginalised and misunderstood populations in society – care-experienced young people. She is a young woman who has experienced childhood trauma, and moved around foster placements, and struggled to form relationships.

The average person doesn’t know a great deal about the care system. Neither, is seems, does Gail Honeyman, who has nonetheless written a novel about a care-experienced character who at the outset has no friends, no social skills and a ludicrously limited understanding of the world she has inhabited for 30 years. The novel is sent in contemporary Glasgow, yet the author seems to have no interest in getting very basic facts right. She perpetuates a number of harmful myths about social services, including that workers conceal vital information from foster carers, that young people are not included in decision-making about their lives, and that trauma-experienced social work clients (whether adults or children) receive no meaningful support whatsoever.

Yes, this is a work of fiction, and the author will doubtless claim creative licence, but to what end has she used this licence? The net harm caused by the perpetuation of the above myths – myths that affect the life chances, health and wellbeing of real, live young people – can scarcely be said to be worth it because of the merits of the literature produced. It’s a page-turner, but it’s a worthless book.

Which brings me back to A Little Life, a novel that’s entirely different in tone to Eleanor Oliphant…, but similarly centres around a character against whom the odds have been firmly stacked since an early age. After finishing the book – which begins as a saga about four friends but descends into a gruelling fictionalised misery memoir – I read some interviews with the author and was shocked to discover she had carried out no research. She had simply made up a character and subjected him to an implausible catalogue of horrific events, then teased with the details for 700-odd pages.

Of course, readers will always be drawn to dark topics, and no subject matter should be off-limits for those writing fiction. But is it too much to ask that novels don’t fuel stigma surrounding and misunderstanding about the most vulnerable people in society?

By the end of Honeyman’s novel, Eleanor’s story is no longer being played purely for laughs. But that’s small consolation.

Published by Shona Craven

Writer, editor, talking head

37 thoughts on “Eleanor Oliphant is not fine – this book is dangerously irresponsible

    1. I strongly identified with Eleanor.

      I experienced severe abuse and neglect as a child and as an adult I struggle to to form relationships due to a having a different emotional calibration and way of perceiving the world. I’m not autistic. My therapist has been very helpful in explaining that my reaction to trauma is very normal. This detached type of behavior is evident in some adults who failed to develop secure attachments growing up.

      When you experience high levels of stress for prolonged periods of time as a child it changes the way your brain develops. It hinders the development of the brain and for some, makes it difficult to understand emotions or respond appropriately to social cues. When I talk to other people who grew up in a high ACE environment, I meet a lot of people who feel as if they’re a different species.

      This feeling of otherness has led me, and others I’m sure, to spend a lot of time alone, where isolation compounds the problem of poor social functioning.

      I completely relate to Eleanor, so much so that I wondered if the author might have experienced severe trauma as a child, or perhaps knows someone who did.

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  1. I completely disagree. I actually identified with the character. This grotesque totally unbelievable caricature is startlingly similar to me and the character’s mother is very like mine too. I speak and think like Eleanor.
    We are not meant to laugh at Eleanor: she makes observations about the so called normal people around her which shows that what is considered normal is actually pretty absurd.

    I don’t see that the author is promoting harmful myths: there are actually quite a few of us out there who lead lives with limited social skills and no friends. What I find more stigmatising is Shona thinking that such people are too freakish to possibly really exist. Well, we do. Check under your bed every night, folks! Lonely, eccentric people might be lurking anywhere. In fact, Shona’s stance is disgustingly ableist in its inability to allow such neurodivergence to be part of the real world landscape.

    Victims of abuse do get failed and we do get left to get on with things. I cried reading Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine because it could have been, with a few tweaks, my autobiography. But I suppose now I should be ashamed for being DANGEROUSLY IRRESPONSIBLE by my mere existence.

    This was a fantastic, compassionate book which brings home to the reader the reality of loneliness and the beauty of friendship.

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    1. Many thanks for your comment Emma – your perspective is very interesting. Certainly others I’ve spoken to found Eleanor funny, albeit they empathised more with her as the book went on. One friend thought the “message” was that you shouldn’t laugh at eccentric people because you don’t know what they are going through. For me this is the kind of message a children’s book might have – not one for adults. Any half-way empathetic adult should try to be compassionate towards those who are different.

      I don’t doubt at all that there are many people who have character traits in common with Eleanor, but I simply didn’t believe in the extent of her naivety about the world, which felt exaggerated for comedy value. What I found particularly distasteful was the way the author drip-fed information about Eleanor’s past and then ultimately revealed she’d been in care, as if this was supposed to explain everything. I think authors have a responsibility to get at least basic facts right when talking about this marginalised group.

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      1. I also found Eleanor’s experience to be very similar to mine, and the way you dismiss her in your review is very jarring and disheartening since I was elated to be introduced to a character who has thought patterns and behaviors so similar to mine, both good and bad. What you consider “drip-fed” actually represents the slow process of coming to terms with abuse and trauma that is all too common among those who experience it, in childhood especially. As someone who has both autism and ptsd and has been in the system, I got a completely different experience out of the book. Maybe you should read about autism and ptsd if you think those details were exaggerated – for comedy of all things! I think that says a lot more about you than it does about the book. You either live in a bubble, or you lack empathy for people who are different. Considering you seem to think it is absurd that Eleanor would isolate herself so much, I am doubting the bubble.

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      2. I agree with Emma- I also had a mother with some similarities to the mother in the book. I found the character identifiable and I really enjoyed the way she gradually comes to grips with her past. This rings pretty true for me. You don’t really process everything at once and it’s very normal not to remember everything.

        I think it’s ok to find comedy in Eleanor’s interactions with others. She’s daft sometimes, and those darker sections were readable for me precisely because Eleanor’s limitations are written with humour. Other characters are made light of too; E’s outsider status allows the reader to see how ridiculous some societal norms are. The guy at the phone store who can’t answer questions, the waxing lady who assumes everyone knows what the terminology means, they’re funny and daft too.

        I don’t know whether you actually interviewed readers with relevant trauma when you wrote this review but fwiw, there’s at least two of us who think the book is great.

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  2. I work in social care and know that the issues raised in the book are very much reality for many young people and adults. I have worked for service users with traits displayed by the character Eleanor and they are marginalised by so called ‘normal’ people in society. Many of these people with ‘differences’ have no wish to adapt to social norms and are strong, resilient, interesting people I have a lot of respect for. I wonder if the author of the review did any research into how much research Gail Honeywell did, before slating her for writing a book I thoroughly enjoyed.

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  3. As an autistic person and survivor of abuse I found Eleanor’s character eerily relatable. I was taken aback at how much. People used to say I was naive and weird too. I didn’t understand or care for social norms. This was partly due to my neurotype but also abuse changes you it makes you turn inward and away from the world so you end up missing out on a lot. I’ve never been in state care though so I can accept that that part of the story might be less than accurate. However, there’s plenty of people out there like Eleanor.

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  4. Terrible review. COMPLETELY missed the point and spirit of the book. By traditional standards I’m considered a”normal” person and I found Eleanor extremely believable and her story all too common. She moved me to look at the way I view people, things as well as situations. I found the book moving and very emotional. I think this Shona person should read the book again with fresh eyes, remove their own biases and viewpoints and accept Eleanor as she is.

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    1. Thanks very much for your comment. I’m really interested to know what you think the point/spirit of the book is meant to be. I think it’s a stretch to say that Eleanor’s specific situation is all too common – as I’ve detailed above, several aspects are just not at all plausible given the book is set in contemporary Scotland. I certainly won’t be reading it again, as the ill-informed portrayal of mental illness in particularly would be even more jarring now that I know the “twist”.

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      1. Just curious if you grew up in care? I did and my experience was very similar to Eleanor’s. I also suffered from depression and social anxiety disorder and it was portrayed very faithfully in the book. More than any other book I have read. So I am not sure what you think was “Ill-informer portrayal of mental illness”. I also talked to a lot of people who has similar experiences to me (and Eleanor) and they thought it was very well portrayed. Just wondering if you ever suffered from depression or social anxiety? If not, then I understand why you think this book is not plausible. Which I think is the problem with people who don’t suffer from those things and don’t understand it. I had had people who thought I was lazy when it seriously felt like the I was covered in an avalanche of snow and couldn’t move and that was the real reason why I didn’t do the grocery. Not because I was lazy. But because I didn’t want my life anymore and groceries was the most insignificant thing to me at the time. I hope you try to understand how Eleanor and other people like her are, before you say that something is inplausible, just because you have never experienced thing s like her or felt the way she did. A lot of people do, and it is hurtful for us who do when you say that it’s not all too common.

        Also, I hope you realize you are acting like Eleanor’s coworkers who ridicule her in the beginning just because you don’t understand her. You said, “for the reader, who is invited to chuckle at her many eccentricities”. Which is not at all what the novel is saying. It is actually trying to show the reader the opposite. That her eccentricities aren’t eccentricities, but it is a logical way for some people to behave or think. And that just because you think someone is eccentric, doesn’t mean that it is an open invitation for ridicule.

        You also said “No-one like her exists in the real world. And as such, the book has nothing whatsoever of value to say.” Which is the scariest and most insulting thing I have ever read in my life. It is scary because as I said, My whole life almost perfectly mimics Eleanor’s (grew up in the care system, had an abusive mother, absent father, emotionally Andy physically abusive partners, had social issues, depression, etc). It is scary to me because I didn’t think people like you existed who think people with problems like me existed. You remind me of the bullies I had in school. And the fact that you think we don’t exist and that this book has nothing to say is scary. It may not ring true to your life or say anything for you, but it did for me. And for you to dismiss it because of that is scary because I didn’t realize such small mindedness still existed in the world. I thought the world has become more inclusive and accepting of people like me, but I guess I was wrong. I hope one day you realize that there are broken people like me. That our “eccentricities” are a way we had to deal with the world and people like you because of traumatic experiences.

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      2. I am a neurotypical woman and I work in the care sector. I did not find this novel to be a comedy at all but due to my experience working in care-
        I know people can be neglected, not given a voice. I summised Eleanor was likely autistic. There are many people that live secluded lives like her. Shona seems to be the ignorant one and I would
        Agree with an earlier comment of her being ableist.

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  5. Probably going to post this twice as having difficulty with the log in. I finally read this months after everyone else. I enjoyed the opening chapters and Eleanor’s critical take on the world. She seems to take real pleasure in her meal deals, her crosswords, and the tasks at her work. There’s a Barbara Pym character not far away. But then an Ann Tyler sentimentalism arrives, along with a modern misery memoir, with no attempt at addressing how that kind of trauma would really affect a person – in real life, it leads to the streets, not a classics degree. Instead of trauma, she does a simple switch and gives her character ASD traits.

    The makeover theme is really childlike. Her ability to resolve the situation with the abusive partner – and her alcoholism- just like that! being in young adult fiction, not literature.

    The “be a bit kinder” message… Raymond and his dream-like mother along with the dream-like Sammy… Actually it’s really hard to sustain a relationship with a person as deeply traumatised as Eleanor. They don’t perk up as soon as they get a good haircut. They don’t get promotions when they have difficulty working with others and are bullied at work.

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    1. No. Trauma does not always lead to the streets. In fact, as I’ve known many PhD students, a classics degree is spot on for Eleanor.

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    2. Catarina, you and Shona may have revealed your own limited understanding of the effects of childhood trauma, how they may manifest, and the significant overlap between traits of Autism and symptoms of trauma (it is also possible, by the way, for a person with ASD to also experience significant trauma – probably commonly co-occurring, actually). How can you possibly say that childhood trauma always leads to a life on the streets, or that a person with social communication difficulties cannot expect to ever be offered a promotion? I am a Clinical Psychologist who works with young people in care and also children with ASD. I found this book to be simultaneously heartbreaking and full of hope for people who experience difficulties that resemble those of Eleanor.
      I also find the makeover scene to be a wonderful extension of what is going on for Eleanor more broadly – social connectedness and a growing sense of self worth that accompanies that. Having her hair done is about so much more than having a shiny new haircut!

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    3. I strongly disagree. I had a similar life experience to Eleanor and hold a Master’s degree and have a career. Of course the streets are the stereotype but I’m afraid to say there are very many more deeply traumatised people leading outwardly ‘normal’ lives.

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  6. they say about people on the spectrum, ‘if you’ve met one person with autism, you’ve met one person with autism.’ everyone is different. the same can be said about anyone. pretty sure you’ve not met everyone in the world of which there are billions. amazing that you are absolutely sure there is no one like eleanor.

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  7. You said “No-one like her exists in the real world. And as such, the book has nothing whatsoever of value to say.”
    But indeed there are people like here. Believe me!!
    I found many of her observations about the world very spot on. And I did most of my laughing with her not at her. I found it refreshing to see a character show a different perspective and interaction with the world.

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  8. Well It seems many for and against arguments Shona. Maybe you are just being very critical and perhaps need to think that as with many books some will like them and it will probably not appeal to others.
    If you want a poignant informative book with fantastic background information but still a wonderful fictional story try.. The Pearl Thief by Fiona MacIntosh
    Thankyou

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  9. Will make a good movie, quirky character and sadness as well. I liked the book, it was a page turner. I thought she dealt with her childhood trauma in a believable way, two bottles of vodka on the weekend, solves a lot of problems, and she was delusional, but for her own sake. It could have been set anywhere in the world, Glasgow wasn’t a prominent feature, a few ouch’s and ayes. I’d go see the movie, maybe.

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  10. I enjoyed the book and disagree about it trying to have us find Eleanor’s behaviors amusing. It bothers me that Reese Witherspoon’s comment that the book is funny is printed on the cover (very misleading in my opinion).
    I agree that the character changes and solutions seem simplistic but feel the book did have a good message for me which was the importance of empathy.

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  11. This is not a dangerous book, it is a work of fiction. The reader is not so obtuse as to overlook this fact. Eleanor’s experience of the world and the dichotomy of her character being so intelligent and yet so innocent, and not understanding the ways of the world are clearly not realistic. But it makes for a lovely and entertaining character. I loved this book so much! I was never laughing at or looking down upon Eleanor’s innocence and lack of understanding. Quite the contrary. It was sweet and endearing. No I don’t believe it is realistic, but it was a lovely and uplifting book.

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  12. I feel like this book was moving and important. I’ve personally experienced poor care, yes just like the book describes and in modern times. I was born in 1988, a year after Eleanor. I am not as socially inept as her, but I have met people like her and people who are innocent and childlike.

    Instead of listening to the voices of the marginalized and disabled that this reviewer claims to care about – she continues to debate and defend against the comments that state that the book rings true – and her review shows a lack of her own research and empathy.

    Rather than avoiding this book I would consider people with the ignorance of the reviewer to be people to avoid. People who put their egos and opinions ahead of actually listening to the community commenting here. People need to open their eyes to things that still happen in 2020.

    Saying that something is not “plausible” based on a limited and cold view of life is simply willful ignorance and abelist. It’s also like saying that just because we don’t want to believe in woeful care still existing in modern times – that it doesn’t exist. Just because the truth is unpleasant – doesn’t mean we shouldn’t deny it. The author Gail Honeyman paints a painful yet accurate truth. She did very well at putting herself in Eleanor’s shoes – something people like the reviewer needs more practice at.

    Pay attention to the people who have actually survived what Eleanor has and are speaking up and saying that this book was spot on. Reviews like this (that disparge this important book) are what is damaging in the world.

    And the replies to comments like mine show that this message needs to be repeated louder and clearer. To think the reviewer thinks the message of this book is more suited to a children’s story just shows how little understanding there is, and the Abelism that is still alive and well today.

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  13. As a psychiatrist with 33 years of experience who has worked with many adults who have experienced heinous child abuse, I found Eleanor’s character to be very believable. People who’ve been traumatized as she was are often very naive about relationships and what’s normal, although they may be well-educated and aware of their general culture. They often feel that they don’t fit anywhere, are awkward in social situations, and have odd ways of phrasing things if they’ve brought themselves up with books, as Eleanor has. They may or may not have physical scars, but they always have emotional ones. They often believe that they are to blame for their abuse and for what their parents did to their sibs and feel guilty for not being able to rescue their sibs. Many wish for death their whole lives, and many make suicide attempts or die of suicide. They are frequently feel extremely alone and lonely, may abuse drugs and/or alcohol, and have few friends. They often have pushed away and distorted their pasts, but with the support of therapy, can heal. Eleanor’s therapy and process of beginning to heal as portrayed here are realistic enough to make me wonder if they is not the author’s story, despite her denial of it. I appreciate that the author made Eleanor a very intelligent person. Not infrequently when I have done some small kindness for such a patient, they have been astonished. Shona, I find your review to be judgmental, off-putting and to show a lack of knowledge about the consequences of abuse.

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  14. The book was passed on to me and by page 78 I went in search of another viewpoint . Though the author has not given Eleanor autistic spectrum disorder, I found Jasmin’s comment in response to Shona’s article the most insightful. I think many of us have met or worked with someone like the fictitious Eleanor – well at least I have. Eleanor and Raymond aside (so far) the rest of the characters seem uncaring and mean spirited. I don’t think it can be classed as a bad novel – there are published novels that are worse. Though I am completely with Shona on being taken aback that it is a global bestseller, Gail Honeyman has hit the right spot for an awful lot of people. Now, I owe it to my son to read it to the end…

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  15. I completely agree with you, Emma, and found the review to be the container of naivety rather than the novel. As an autistic person who had an abusive upbringing I completely relate to Eleanor. There was so much value in the book for me. There are in fact plenty of people who hold fixed views on life and routine which do not allow them to experience more than their back yard. Additionally, I would suggest that the writer hints enough at ‘what happened’ throughout the book for us to piece it together. I urge the reviewer to read up on the effects of trauma and autism as in my opinion the description of Eleanor is extremely realistic. I do appreciate the reviewer’s open-minded response to Emma’s comment, however.

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  16. Shona, your review is dangerously irresponsible! You are guilty of the very thing of which you accuse the author Gail Honeyman: ignorance. What vast experience with or knowledge of the foster care system do you have? Have you lived it as a child in care, or do you have years of experience as a social worker in the foster care system? Are you the victim of extreme childhood abuse and/or a neurodivergent person and/or someone who lives with psychosocial challenges? Are you a clinician who has spent 40 plus years knowing and working with any of the above types of people? I don’t think so, because if you had, you would have undoubtedly made a big point of splashing your credentials throughout your review. Also, you would have known better than to write such an arrogant, ignorant piece of garbage. As a clinical psychologist who does have 40 plus years knowing and working with an array of marginalized populations, I can tell you that people similar to Eleanor absolutely do exist all over the planet. Sadly, many such individuals never find kind allies and the opportunities to heal as Eleanor did. But Ms. Honeyman’s novel provides a hopeful and plausible vision of how life can take dramatically positive turns – something I have witness countless times.
    I find it interesting that you seem to believe that Eleanor is carelessly depicted as hilariously weird. I never once read descriptions of her thinking and behavior as comical, but rather as quirks and misperceptions of someone who has experienced very little healthy role modeling and possibly not a single loving relationships in her life. Do you think that never happens, Shona? If so, you have lived an extremely fortunate and sheltered life! Lucky you!
    Finally, I literally did laugh out loud at this quote from your review:

    “It’s barely worth speculating, as she is nothing but a figment of the author’s imagination. No-one like her exists in the real world. And as such, the book has nothing whatsoever of value to say.”

    Hello!!! A figment of the author’s imagination? That’s what FICTION is, Shona! Maybe you missed that distinction in primary school. Perhaps you should stick to non-fiction from now on, if you’re looking for just the facts, Ma’am.

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